Good Morning Everyone!
How many of you are aware of the three magical words?
Can you please repeat it for me?
Thank you so much.
I am unsure about the magic these words possess. But I am sure, what follows once you have uttered these words is indeed magical. The reply to this question can change your life. You heard it right a simple Yes, coming from someone else indeed can change yourself, if only for a few days. But it’s not the first yes that determines longevity of a relationship. It is how many times you say yes after getting committed that determines the strength of your bonding.
But today, I am not here to talk about your relationship with the outside world. Today, I will talk about our relationship with our own self. And imagine how smooth our relationship with us will become once we start doing the same to us. Once we start saying yes to us.
Ladies and gentlemen, fellow toastmasters and dear guests. A very good morning to all of you.
There are times when we are trying something new and are unsure of its outcome. Or the case might be that you might already be engaged into something but are not finding enough motivation to continue with the task. It does happen with most of us at one instance or the other. I was in a similar situation when I was in college. I was involved in many things, but after few days I was not able to take part in it. I was missing my classes and was not taking part in any activities I used to do. I approached a teacher and he suggested something to me. Something which I was difficult to understand at that time.
Do you want to know what he said?
He said that it is all there in our brain. All the hurdles, the flexibility, the turmoil, the confusion, it’s all here. He asked me to start giving and affirmative response to my mind whenever it imposed a dilemma. My mind might be wanting me to rest for it felt exhausted after travelling for few hours; which, actually was excuse not for attending the class. I started saying yes in all such circumstances where we have a tendency to make excuses.
But before saying yes, it is also important to understand why we say no. Let me narrate another incident to you.
We were released from first corporate training and were sitting in the library. We met ‘A’ Sir there and he said something that day which I will be the guiding light for me in my professional career. He said, that now that we have transitioned into the corporate-world, we have to learn to balance everything along with this. This is the battleground and it will be an integral part of our life henceforth. Whatever it is that we do has to be done along with this and not apart from this. He was talking about the work-life balance.
Friends, we say no when we are saddled with two diverse tasks. When we feel that there is no connection between the two tasks and one cannot be done after the other. We might feel that I cannot attend Toastmasters session or vice-versa right after a meeting as both are diverse tasks. There can be in numerous such situations.
Ladies and gentlemen, we all would have heard the phrase that opportunity knocks our doors. When you say ‘yes’ to something you open the door for opportunity to embrace you. And please understand, saying ‘yes’ to one thing doesn’t imply that you will say no to the other.